When we think about different kinds of people, most of us look right outside ourselves to those who are different from us—in their culture, nationality, religion, politics, age, gender, you name it. Yet, what matters most is what kind of person we feel we are in any given moment.
What if the kind of person you are depends on the circumstances you’re in? There are times when that can even change within the same hour! At any point in time, most of us fall into one of three general categories—we become the kind of person who feels:
So, what kind of person do you feel most like right now?
If you’re feeling content, feel free to stop reading here. You can always come back and pick it up anytime.
If you’re feeling stuck, you know what you want—you’re simply stopped by some obstacle that you can’t figure out how to get around.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re probably so saddled by your circumstances, you can’t see past them to what you want.
Even though feeling stuck and feeling overwhelmed are completely different experiences, they have a lot more in common than you might think. The most obvious things these feelings have in common are the circumstances that lead to them, such as:
- Doubting yourself
- Second guessing yourself
- Giving in to unreasonable demands
- Avoiding conflict
- Fearing failure
- Worrying about the opinions of others
- Saying “yes” when you needed to say “no”
Although you can probably come up with a much longer list, this one is enough to get the conversation started. Any of them can be the root cause of both of these negative feelings. What’s important to know is that you can always choose to feel differently.
Now, in case you’re thinking, “Yeah, yeah, I’ve heard that before—only I can choose how I feel. Blah, blah, blah…” stay with me here. I’m not just telling you that you can choose how you feel; I’m going to show you exactly how to do just that! It’s a Simple Shift™ you can make anytime.
Choose How You Feel—Anytime—in Three Simple Steps
- Pay attention to your emotional state when you’re feeling less than content. Are you feeling stuck or overwhelmed?
- Look at the list above (feel free to add any other conditions that apply to you) and decide what circumstances are feeding your negative emotions. Then…
- Ask yourself, The Power Question™: “What IF I had Unlimited Creative Power and could not fail—what do I want?”
When you shift your attention to what you want instead of what’s leaving you feeling stuck or overwhelmed, you access the part of your brain that helps you get it. That allows you to make the shift toward finding solutions that have been invisible to you up until now. It puts you back in control of your circumstances and instantly changes your emotional state. It’s something you can do anytime, anywhere.
It will put you on the path to being the kind of person who feels content, no matter what’s going on around you.