The Power of Distinctions

Two weeks from today, Dance into Your Power will launch on Amazon!
In two short weeks, you’ll get to see all the distinctions, structures and strategies that have made the Journey to Powerful Presence so transformative for so many people for more than three years. You’ll get to try them out for yourself ~ or revisit them again now that’s it’s been awhile since your class or teleclass.
This week I thought you might like to explore the idea of “distinctions”—and here’s why: Although they’re critical to our success in every area of our lives, most of them have become so much a part of us that they have become invisible.
Why should you care about these invisible distinctions?
It’s because they’re the building blocks of your power and the foundation of your experience. They’re also at the heart of any transformation you want to make.
Let me show you how invisible distinctions can be:

  • How do you know it’s time to change into your winter or summer clothes?
  • How do you know when it’s time to eat?
  • How do you know which is the best place to live and what is the best kind of dwelling for you?
  • How do you know whether someone is a friend or not?
  • How do you know what school is best for your child?
  • How do you know which is the best kind of car for your teenager?

Most people tell me, “I just KNOW.” Yes, I totally agree—and—how you know is the function of a distinction you made. One thing is better than another; one thing is bigger, stronger, more effective, more timely, more precious, more useful, more friendly, more long-lasting, and so on.
The things you value are the basis of your criteria or standards; being able to tell one from another requires a distinction. Being aware of your criteria as you make distinctions increases your power because it increases your consciousness. It allows you to have choice in every moment of your life—even when other choices seem to have been taken from you.
Consciously making distinctions allows you to have power over your life, no matter what circumstances you face.
Making distinctions helped me last week when I took my first Modern Dance class from Inlet Dance Theatre at The Music Settlement in Cleveland. Getting there was the result of learning a distinction that someone else made before I could.
In the process of writing Dance into Your Power, I had the opportunity to speak with two dance teachers (you’ll find out more about them in the book). In the course of our conversations, one of them said to me, “It’s obvious that you’re a dancer and a natural performer. Where do you take your classes?” I was stunned by her comment. I had to admit to her that my last class was a belly dancing class this past spring—short-lived due to an injury at the gym—and before that, it had been years since I’d been in my first belly dancing classes.
She said, “When are you going to get back to class?”
This dancer had a distinction that I could not yet make; yet it was as clear to her as the nose on my face. Until our conversation, I thought I was just a private dancer—a dancer in my heart who did not have the skill to dance in public. I dance in my kitchen all the time. I capture my husband in my arms and we whirl or sway around that kitchen with heartfelt delight and joy.
After our conversation, it was clear to me that what makes me a dancer is that I cannot refrain from dancing!
So now I had a new distinction: I am a dancer. That distinction led to two new ones: A dancer is one who dances and a dancer takes classes. So now that I have these distinctions, I’m headed off to new adventures.
When you read Dance into Your Power, you’ll read all about my first adventures in dancing and the dance classes that followed. Everything I learned there prepared me for what happened next.
Last Thursday, in my first Modern Dance class, I made a new distinction: I act like a dancer when I feel like one.
Even when I don’t yet know the steps. Even when I can’t yet make the moves.
Those distinctions led me to discover a truly powerful one: bringing my Inner Dancer to every class will allow me to learn and grow in ways I never thought possible.
Until next week, let me leave you with one question: what distinctions can you make this week that will help you to dance in your own way?

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