A Gift in Every Obstacle

We’ve already explored the way that your beliefs determine your experience because your Reticular Activating System (RAS)  filters the input your brain receives. This third Belief is simply another filter.
Have you ever noticed that, long after a challenging event, you can look back on the experience and see what you learned from it–or how you developed skills or strategies you could never have developed otherwise?
This phenomenon is called hindsight and three things are true about it:

  1. It happens to everyone
  2. It’s perfectly clear (as in “hindsight is 20-20”)
  3. It’s possible to create a filter for it before it happens

Creating a filter for hindsight is the function of the Third Belief and it works like this:

  1. You’re in the midst of something challenging – a situation you don’t want, didn’t expect, or don’t want to have to handle.
  2. You decide  that this is your opportunity to develop a skill or a strategy that you couldn’t otherwise — that there is a gift waiting for you that you can only get this way.
  3. You focus on finding the gift instead of feeling the suffering.

Sounds pretty straightforward, right? The good news is that the more you practice it,  the easier it gets.  After awhile it actually becomes a reflex, when the first thing you do is look for the gift.
The more you practice it, the more you see how it’s intimately connected to the first two Beliefs:

  • You Bring About What You Think About
  • You Have What It Takes.

So what happens when you’re doing it for the very first time? It’s all about paying attention to your physiology ~ and exploring that requires its own blog post. We’ll jump into that with both feet tomorrow.
In the meantime, as you ease on back into your work world today, consider your own experience with hindsight. Did you feel the same way about a challenging situation when you faced it and when you remembered it later?  What was the difference between what you experienced when the situation was occurring and what you experienced when you were remembering it?
The secret to the mastering this Third Belief is the willingness to explore the structure of your experiences–and deciding to focus on finding your power.
Tomorrow: The physiology of your responses

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