Chuck’s adventure last week got me thinking.
It took him 30 years to make that particular dream come true; he told me on Wednesday that it was worth every moment he had to wait for it.
He and I talk regularly about our dreams; over 20 years ago we made the commitment to do all we can to make them come true — for ourselves and for each other. This is just normal conversation at our house. I started thinking about what it would be like if it wasn’t. That made me look at this whole process that we take for granted so I could write out the recipe.
In my conversation with Chuck, we identified three steps:
The first step is to search your heart and your imagination for what would really light you up. You’re looking for the WOW here; nothing less than that will get you through the time it can take. Find your WOWs ~ even if they seem completely unreasonable. Nothing reasonable will make your life as vibrant as what’s completely unreasonable that you really want. (Chuck sitting in the cockpit of a B17 is a perfect example of unreasonable!)
The next step is to make a decision about what you are willing to do to get what you want. There’s no “maybe” about this. “Yes I will” and “No I won’t” are both required required here. My friend Gwen pointed me to the perfect example of this part of the process from someone I greatly admire, Will Smith; you can see his interview with Tavis Smiley on youtube here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFGxCJ25HFA&feature=related
Will says once he decides, that’s it. He’s made a decision that he’s willing to give his life for and that’s what’s allowed him to achieve such amazing success.
Chuck decided that there would come a day that he would fly in that plane and sit in that cockpit; his decision was the factor that made Wednesday possible. There were a multitude of factors that would have kept him from it last week, had he not made that decision the first time he ever saw the plane in 1980.
This is where the rubber meets the road. You know what you want, you’ve decided on what it will take to get it — now you have to act on all of that. No hesitation, no holding back. This is where you take the risk to get what you say you want.
When I visited Ireland for the first time in 2003, Chuck and I were bringing my Mother’s ashes back home. It was completely unreasonable for us to be doing that, on multiple levels. It just so happened to be a crossroads of opportunity where my desire since childhood to go to Ireland met my decision to act on my Mother’s last wishes. While I was there I met an Irish priest who gave me a card that has fueled my action since then: “Take your leap into the Unknown and trust. Be assured that the ground will rise up to meet you, or you will be given wings.”
You can do anything you want to with a recipe. I’m celebrating all the possibilities for you of this one.